In the following Today Show segment, Donna Rice Hughes, President of Enough is Enough, and Michelle Borba, Educational Psychologist, discuss Internet safety with Matt Lauer. The question posed is, "Should parents snoop on their children with spyware or use an open monitoring/filtering solution?" Parents have mixed reactions to the use of spyware with some believing that it is a necessary tool to help keep their child safe online, while others believe it's a violation of privacy and there are other alternatives to keep tabs on their child such as "friending" them on social networking sites. There isn't a wrong answer - it really comes down to parenting style and family norms as to what protective measure parents put in place. The most important point is for parents to put measures in place - it takes, as Donna says during the segment, "rules and tools." Parents need to set the rules regarding expectations of online behavior, including consequences of violating those rules, and use tools to help monitor their child's online activities.
Safety in everything. There's a growing chorus among parents and manufacturers for standards to be revised concerning children's car seats. There's a significant flaw in the design of crash test dummies that could be a trigger for concern. Here is the proof: Child seat safety testing standards may be suspicious No crash test dummies test how effective auto seats are for obese children. There are a growing number of larger tots going around, and test dummies do not simulate how these kids are impacted by a crash. Vehicle seats have been criticized numerous times over the years, especially for not being that effective.
I will talk with my parents or guardian so that we can set up rules for going online. The rules will include the time of day I may be online, the length of time I may be online, whom I may communicate with while online, and appropriate areas for me to visit while online. I will not break these rules or access other areas without their permission. I will tell a trusted adult if I come across anything that makes me feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused. I will not download anything from anyone without permission from my parents or guardian. I will never share personal information such as my address, my telephone number, my parents' or guardian's work address/telephone number, or the name and location of my school without my parents' or guardian's permission. I will never respond to any messages that are mean or in any way make me feel uncomfortable. If I do get a message like that, I will tell a trusted adult right away so that he or she can contact the online service. And I will not send those kinds of messages. I will never meet in person with anyone I have first "met" online without checking with my parents or guardian. If my parents or guardian agrees to the meeting, it will be in a public place and my parents or guardian must come along.
I agree that parents should use the software to monitor children. Children are often quick to trust anyone on the Internet. This leaves them vulnerable to predators! Studies show that children typically do not inform an adult if they are being victimized. Many of them don't even realize that they are being victimized!! They may not realize that being exposed to sexualized images, videos, or talk is inappropriate and can be illegal. Or that the adult who is sending them messages (for example) on a Social Networking Site shouldn't be tolerated. There are many dangers of the Internet, and parents absolutely should monitor what their children are doing online. They should have complete access to their child's site, software installed on the computer and should not allow a child to have a computer in their room. There are too many dangers and too many kids who fall victim!
It is such a hard line to walk between privacy and safety, especially when it is your own child. While I can completely understand putting spyware on the computer of a child, it is also the choice of a parent to decide, from what their age is, as to their autonomy on the Internet. However, my view is to first, teach children about the dangers of the Internet and that, even though the computer may be in a home, it is still a porthole to a world where rules may not apply and values and norms differ greatly.
Second, it is important for parents to become knowledgeable of the workings and the technology involved with online activities.
Third, as one of the guests of the Today’s Show suggest, there should be a “walk-by” where a parent monitors what a child is doing by occasionally glancing at the monitor of the computer a child is using.
Finally, it is the responsibility of a parent to install Internet Parent Protection software to keep kids from accidentally (or on purpose) going to sites that contain dangerous or objectionable material. In the end, it is the responsibility of the parent to monitor and set his or her own boundaries based on the age, behavior, and past actions of any child. Freedom for children is important and needed, but so is protection and love.
Safety tends to be a sensitive issue. On one hand I am sure kids would not like to be tracked on where they go on the internet, but at the same time if a child goes missing or something bad happens stemming from direct contact of the internet the parent will be look at as "didn't you know what your child was doing? Why would you not be aware of this behavior?" It can be a tough balance between allowing a loved one freedom and providing safety at the same time. I found that for myself in my business that once I used activclient my options and tools I had available sky rocketed and I am able to easily navigate different security options for both work/play.
The site I found to be most helpful was http://compitstore.com/product_info.php?products_id=190 this is where I bought activclient for myself and now I create the options and security features that fit my needs and I can regulate others for business and pleasure purposes. Now I have a since of security and peace of mind on what is really going on.
In my experience, monitoring is my foremost tool in keeping my kids safe. I also talk to her a lot about what she does online. I have set out rules in using the Internet and make sure I am right there whenever she use the computer. We even play online games together like www.ekidnaworld.com
There is a fine line between letting your children learn from their experiences and watching out for their safety. In today's world it is possible for children to go online, get into some trouble through pics or messages, and ruin their life before it gets started. It is the parents responsibility to watch out for their children, so sometimes I think it is okay to spy some. I use Mousemail, which keeps my spying anonymous through sending potential threats and messages to me, instead of the my child. Therefore I can stay proactive in watching my child without them knowing I am doing it.
KidsWatch™ Family Protection Suite is your fastest and easiest solution to safeguard your children's Internet experience and maximize the efficiency of the time they spend on the computer.
Parents are alerted immediately when a child steps outside the boundaries of safe surfing. KidsWatch™ automatically sends you e-mail alerts when your child enters or receives a suspect phrase or keyword from any chat conversation. You are alerted to inappropriate conversations, risky situations, child predators, conversations containing sex, suicide, drugs, guns and more.
Be alerted to and see where registered sexual predators live and work around you.
Prohibit access to dangerous and inappropriate web sites, pornography, adult content, criminal related, drugs, gambling, vice and more.
KidsWatch™ is much more than the best-rated Parental Controls and Parental Control Software solution. It is loaded and preloaded with many optional benefits and features that improve the security and the quality of the Internet your children see. Installing KidsWatch™ on your computer is customizing the Internet, by child, the way you want your kids to experience and use it.
KidsWatch™ Family Protection Suite is your fastest and easiest solution to safeguard your children's Internet experience and maximize the efficiency of the time they spend on the computer.
Parents are alerted immediately when a child steps outside the boundaries of safe surfing. KidsWatch™ automatically sends you e-mail alerts when your child enters or receives a suspect phrase or keyword from any chat conversation. You are alerted to inappropriate conversations, risky situations, child predators, conversations containing sex, suicide, drugs, guns and more.
Be alerted to and see where registered sexual predators live and work around you.
Prohibit access to dangerous and inappropriate web sites, pornography, adult content, criminal related, drugs, gambling, vice and more.
KidsWatch™ is much more than the best-rated Parental Controls and Parental Control Software solution. It is loaded and preloaded with many optional benefits and features that improve the security and the quality of the Internet your children see. Installing KidsWatch™ on your computer is customizing the Internet, by child, the way you want your kids to experience and use it.
System Requirements Personal computer running Windows® 8, 7, XP & Vista
32 MB of RAM, 25 MB on hard drive, 133 MHz or faster processor.
Support for 32-bit and 64-bit computers and Windows operating systems.
Manage Computer Time
Setup time quotas and schedules for access to the computer, the Internet, individual programs, games, web sites and more.
Monitor Usage
See the complete dialog of your child’s chat conversations on facebook, MySpace, Yahoo, AIM and MSN. View the web sites your children visit, the programs they use and when they were active on the computer.
Another Layer of Internet Protection
Spyware, malicious and infected sites, phishing attacks (identity theft) are identified and blocked before the content is downloaded to your PC.
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MariYuhan L. 3-19-2011 @ 5:36AM
Safety in everything. There's a growing chorus among parents and manufacturers for standards to be revised concerning children's car seats. There's a significant flaw in the design of crash test dummies that could be a trigger for concern. Here is the proof: Child seat safety testing standards may be suspicious No crash test dummies test how effective auto seats are for obese children. There are a growing number of larger tots going around, and test dummies do not simulate how these kids are impacted by a crash. Vehicle seats have been criticized numerous times over the years, especially for not being that effective.
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Kidswatch Sales 7-12-2012 @ 3:16PM
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Suresh 3-19-2011 @ 11:48AM
"Build Safety as Culture among new generation" (Vision statement copied from Indian safety Professional Website http://www.isplonline.com)
I am sharing Internet Safety Pledge with all from the link (http://www.isplonline.com/internetsafetypledge.htm) below:-
I will talk with my parents or guardian so that we can set up rules for going online. The rules will include the time of day I may be online, the length of time I may be online, whom I may communicate with while online, and appropriate areas for me to visit while online. I will not break these rules or access other areas without their permission.
I will tell a trusted adult if I come across anything that makes me feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused. I will not download anything from anyone without permission from my parents or guardian.
I will never share personal information such as my address, my telephone number, my parents' or guardian's work address/telephone number, or the name and location of my school without my parents' or guardian's permission.
I will never respond to any messages that are mean or in any way make me feel uncomfortable. If I do get a message like that, I will tell a trusted adult right away so that he or she can contact the online service. And I will not send those kinds of messages.
I will never meet in person with anyone I have first "met" online without checking with my parents or guardian. If my parents or guardian agrees to the meeting, it will be in a public place and my parents or guardian must come along.
Reply
Kidswatch Sales 7-12-2012 @ 3:10PM
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Rachel 3-19-2011 @ 10:59PM
I agree that parents should use the software to monitor children. Children are often quick to trust anyone on the Internet. This leaves them vulnerable to predators! Studies show that children typically do not inform an adult if they are being victimized. Many of them don't even realize that they are being victimized!! They may not realize that being exposed to sexualized images, videos, or talk is inappropriate and can be illegal. Or that the adult who is sending them messages (for example) on a Social Networking Site shouldn't be tolerated. There are many dangers of the Internet, and parents absolutely should monitor what their children are doing online. They should have complete access to their child's site, software installed on the computer and should not allow a child to have a computer in their room. There are too many dangers and too many kids who fall victim!
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Jeremy Plummer 5-17-2011 @ 7:54PM
It is such a hard line to walk between privacy and safety, especially when it is your own child. While I can completely understand putting spyware on the computer of a child, it is also the choice of a parent to decide, from what their age is, as to their autonomy on the Internet. However, my view is to first, teach children about the dangers of the Internet and that, even though the computer may be in a home, it is still a porthole to a world where rules may not apply and values and norms differ greatly.
Second, it is important for parents to become knowledgeable of the workings and the technology involved with online activities.
Third, as one of the guests of the Today’s Show suggest, there should be a “walk-by” where a parent monitors what a child is doing by occasionally glancing at the monitor of the computer a child is using.
Finally, it is the responsibility of a parent to install Internet Parent Protection software to keep kids from accidentally (or on purpose) going to sites that contain dangerous or objectionable material. In the end, it is the responsibility of the parent to monitor and set his or her own boundaries based on the age, behavior, and past actions of any child. Freedom for children is important and needed, but so is protection and love.
Reply
Blog Specialist 6-22-2011 @ 12:22PM
Safety tends to be a sensitive issue. On one hand I am sure kids would not like to be tracked on where they go on the internet, but at the same time if a child goes missing or something bad happens stemming from direct contact of the internet the parent will be look at as "didn't you know what your child was doing? Why would you not be aware of this behavior?" It can be a tough balance between allowing a loved one freedom and providing safety at the same time. I found that for myself in my business that once I used activclient my options and tools I had available sky rocketed and I am able to easily navigate different security options for both work/play.
Reply
Blog Specialist 6-22-2011 @ 12:23PM
The site I found to be most helpful was http://compitstore.com/product_info.php?products_id=190 this is where I bought activclient for myself and now I create the options and security features that fit my needs and I can regulate others for business and pleasure purposes. Now I have a since of security and peace of mind on what is really going on.
Katie 7-01-2011 @ 3:26AM
In my experience, monitoring is my foremost tool in keeping my kids safe. I also talk to her a lot about what she does online. I have set out rules in using the Internet and make sure I am right there whenever she use the computer. We even play online games together like www.ekidnaworld.com
Reply
Jay 7-15-2011 @ 8:45AM
There is a fine line between letting your children learn from their experiences and watching out for their safety. In today's world it is possible for children to go online, get into some trouble through pics or messages, and ruin their life before it gets started. It is the parents responsibility to watch out for their children, so sometimes I think it is okay to spy some. I use Mousemail, which keeps my spying anonymous through sending potential threats and messages to me, instead of the my child. Therefore I can stay proactive in watching my child without them knowing I am doing it.
Reply
Kidswatch Sales 7-12-2012 @ 3:16PM
Parental Control Software
KidsWatch™ Family Protection Suite is your fastest and easiest solution to safeguard your children's Internet experience and maximize the efficiency of the time they spend on the computer.
Protect Against the Dangers of the Internet
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
Parents are alerted immediately when a child steps outside the boundaries of safe surfing. KidsWatch™ automatically sends you e-mail alerts when your child enters or receives a suspect phrase or keyword from any chat conversation. You are alerted to inappropriate conversations, risky situations, child predators, conversations containing sex, suicide, drugs, guns and more.
Be alerted to and see where registered sexual predators live and work around you.
Block Inappropriate Web Site Content
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
Prohibit access to dangerous and inappropriate web sites, pornography, adult content, criminal related, drugs, gambling, vice and more.
KidsWatch™ is much more than the best-rated Parental Controls and Parental Control Software solution. It is loaded and preloaded with many optional benefits and features that improve the security and the quality of the Internet your children see. Installing KidsWatch™ on your computer is customizing the Internet, by child, the way you want your kids to experience and use it.
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
Reply
Kidswatch Sales 7-12-2012 @ 8:15PM
Parental Control Software
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
KidsWatch™ Family Protection Suite is your fastest and easiest solution to safeguard your children's Internet experience and maximize the efficiency of the time they spend on the computer.
Protect Against the Dangers of the Internet
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
Parents are alerted immediately when a child steps outside the boundaries of safe surfing. KidsWatch™ automatically sends you e-mail alerts when your child enters or receives a suspect phrase or keyword from any chat conversation. You are alerted to inappropriate conversations, risky situations, child predators, conversations containing sex, suicide, drugs, guns and more.
Be alerted to and see where registered sexual predators live and work around you.
Block Inappropriate Web Site Content
http://www.kidswatch.com/demodownload.php
Prohibit access to dangerous and inappropriate web sites, pornography, adult content, criminal related, drugs, gambling, vice and more.
KidsWatch™ is much more than the best-rated Parental Controls and Parental Control Software solution. It is loaded and preloaded with many optional benefits and features that improve the security and the quality of the Internet your children see. Installing KidsWatch™ on your computer is customizing the Internet, by child, the way you want your kids to experience and use it.
System Requirements
Personal computer running Windows® 8, 7, XP & Vista
32 MB of RAM, 25 MB on hard drive, 133 MHz or faster processor.
Support for 32-bit and 64-bit computers and Windows operating systems.
Manage Computer Time
Setup time quotas and schedules for access to the computer, the Internet, individual programs, games, web sites and more.
Monitor Usage
See the complete dialog of your child’s chat conversations on facebook, MySpace, Yahoo, AIM and MSN. View the web sites your children visit, the programs they use and when they were active on the computer.
Another Layer of Internet Protection
Spyware, malicious and infected sites, phishing attacks (identity theft) are identified and blocked before the content is downloaded to your PC.
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